Not Married Over 40

Last I commented on one of the articles I picked and it was about a woman that wrote about can women trust a husband after he cheated, this raised an eyebrow, my mother always told me to fight for your husband not for your boufriend, that stood with me throughout all these years reason be is that she did fight for her husband even though my father cheated on her. now i was young so I did not know or think about it, my mom came to tell me when I got older and my dad had past on. In this article Dr. Gail Saltz, she is a Today, CNBC Contributer, she advises a young lady that did catch her dad but by snooping. She tells her that it is not her business to tell her mom, Question would you tell your mom your dad is cheating? Hell yeah I would and I would confront him first. I do not care if my mom would get hurt, im hurting because I know so we both going to hurt and get over it.

Unlike my last blog my mom did forgive my dad after all, but she told me also that made her a strong woman and I realized growing up especially when my dad became ill how much he neede my mom and my mom stuck by him till the very end and believe it or not my mom stood by herself not wanting no other man.

This is something to think about because we are from a different generation that does not take any crap, now how would we handle this had it been us in this situation, unlike my mom forgiveness, she forgave my dad and managed to stay by his side and mind you my mom was a stasy at home mom never had to work and did everything to hold it down, I always admire that about her, toughness.

This article is about woman asking the question, "Women who have been cheated on and forgave thier husbands or boyfriends?" some of the comments are not as surprising as you would think.

Not Married Over 40

Last thing I was talking about on my blog was about not being bitter over a man. Well what I am talking about is that sometimes we do not expect for certain things to happen when you are in a relationship and in love. Question, Should we really be aware of the man you are dealing with? Well in my opinion yes we need to be aware, in this article Dr. Laura Schlessinger, who was on the Today Show said, “The cheating was his decision to repair what’s damaged and to feed himself where he’s starving,” look and read this. This what I mean we have to be aware of these men.
Then when we are aware of what our man is doing then as an act of revenge we go out and cheat and its wrong. I do not have friends that cheat on their husbands but if they do half of the times like this article explains, most of the time women cheat is because as an act of revenge, to tell you the truth that is not the answer. My ex cheated on me and it was people that actually seen him cheat, I never acted on revenge, my famous words were, "keep cheating because it is going to catch up to you and strike you in your face."
I always say that women will never get nothing out of cheating and I know it is hard for us to let go especially if we love sooo much, but why accept a man that cheats, Question, can we trust a man or husband after we learn he cheated, well this article by Crystal Ray, she writes "Damaged But Not Broken", and explains that not to let this bring us down but to let us learn from it and make us stronger, this is something to think about.

Not Married Over 40

This video was something else. I read it in the office where I work and I was reading so loud that it caught the attention of my boss and co-worker. I do not believe that this video is xenophobic what I believe is that this video is showing us how in foreign countries parents show their childern that life is about education. They teach their children to read very young and instill in their childern that if they want to have a life to educate yourself and become something which leads to becoming someone very important. Here in America we have it to easy and sometimes with all the distractions that are shown we do not take things serious especially about education. Even the foreign people that are here in America they keep their ways of life, the way they are raised, taught and make sure to teach those values to their children.

This video is also showing us that the future is coming with all this different technology that is coming. It is crazy how much money we spend on technology only for it to get how we call it "upgade" to something better or something faster. I guess everything will alway be upgraded only to find how that our world will become like the movie "Bicentenial Man" with Robin willams, and if you have never seen that movie go rent it and then you will understand what I mean.

Not Married Over 40

Last time I asked, is it better to cohabitate before marriage? Well this topic struck up in a conversation that I had with my girlfriends that are indeed happily married. One said, "If I would have known the type of man my husband is before I married him I would have lived with him first". I asked her why because this is one marriage that looks like it was meant to be. Well not to speak her business and I am not but I will say, and this is from her mouth, "he is lazy and sloppy and does not do anything in the house".
This link talks about the percentage of couples that are living together before marriage. One of the reasons that statistics show that it is better to cohabitate is because its a good way to save money. This I can agree with but being married, couples can still save money it is no difference. Now these statistics were from 80's to 90's, in my opinion we are in what 2009, I believe the numbers are even higher because this idea to alot of men is like this, some men feel that if they live with a woman the woman is not going to be concerned with being committed by marriage, that living together is enough for us we do not need to go any futher, well BS thats how I feel.
Now take a look at this article, it will help with some ideas of what to look for if you are a couple living together before marriage.
This article ," Should We Cohabitate Before Marriage?" it talks about religious reasons about cohabitating but it also points out other reasons to live together before getting married. Well I am not against living together before marriage, for real, but for me I really must know the man before I can accept any type of committment because, I was in a long term relationship in which I thought that this man would committ to me turns out he had been committed aight with two children, so you see this type of thing did not make me bitter but it made me aware not to fall for some BS that any type of man can bring to me so ladies WATCH OUT!!!!!!!!

Not Married Over 40

Last blog I posted, the very last thing I wrote about was when getting to know a man make sure to understand his views on religion. For example, one of my girlfriends was about to get married and she wanted a real traditional wedding church and everything. The problem was that her fiance which was baptized catholic did not finish his confirmation. well this became an ultimate problem beccause he had to go thru certain classes. Well this is when you realize how much your man, that you are going to spend the rest of your life with, really loves and values you he signed up for the classes and was able to finish his confirmation and because of all that she was able to have the traditional church wedding.

In my link religion, it is a blog by Nina Calloway, she answers some postings about how men feel about being married in a church and what it means to them. In this link it talks about a couple and their feeling towards getting married in a church and what religion to raise their children because both of them are from different religion. See this what i mean you have to know what to get into especially if you are a true religious person. In my friend's case he loved her enough to go and do what he gotta do to make her happy, now you do not find to many of those type of men around.

This link is one very important and serious one. The main thing that caught my eye with this link is that most couples find it better to cohabitate, Question, what is better cohabiting or getting married then cohabitate?

Not Married Over 40

Well the other day my girlfriend got engaged. I was really happy for her. I did get a little jealous because this is going to be her second marriage. Now we have been friends for only 1 year so I am reallly really happy for her. Now I feel and I am pretty sure others will agree, if it is one of your immediate friends like the ones you are raised with since forever, if it was one of them I would have been so full of jealousy. I would feel like that because you know you and your girls have alot in common and for one to find true love and marriage, well you know we get over it.

This website:http://http://www.encyclopedia.com/doc/1G1-18325060.html gives a good article on the views from a man decribing how it is to be a male sinle and over 40. which leads me to think, when a man is single and over 40 are the reasons because he might be gay, afraid of committment, or just being selfish? Well my answer is two out of three he is afraid they all are and yes he is selfish. Half of the time these men think that we want to commit because we want to tie them down well that is sooooo old. As far as the gay thing go well I only have been dealing with black men and I believe the gay thing its not just in them. Now don't get me wrong I am not saying that I am naive to the situation,i have a very good gay friend every woman does, but that it hasn't happen, thank goodness.

This website: http://http://www.answerology.com/index.aspx/question/2583530_Never-married-and-over-40what-do-you-think.html, it is a blogg that has lots of women describing their reasons why they are 40 and not married. Some of the reasons are similar to mine and funny because they are alot of women that feel the same way I feel about not being married over 40. One of the bloggs talks about this young lady having not found mr right, well i say good luck to that and i hope she does find him.

Another question I ask myself is, am I really selfish because I only like certain type of men? My girlfriends and I were talking about that one day and I asked that question, now most of them are married, and they sort of molded them a little to what they like. Is that selfish and stop being so picky about the type of man you want and grab the one that does not have the things you like in a man. Well for me it is kind of hard becqause I only like one particular man he has to be 6' to 65, dark tone, 250 to 350, with a little muscle and a little pinch or two lol lol. I sometimes sit by myself and I say maybre this is one of the reasons that I am still single because I only want one type of man, WOW, plz feel free to comment on this one.

This article: http://http://marriagepartner.com/forum/showthread.php?p=30986 talks about one important thing religion. Whether you are amrried or not I always feel when meeting a man to sort of understand and know what is his religion, I dont know if this has anything to do with this topic, but you never know when your time comes and are about to make this person your husband know about his religion. You know this is a subject that we woman do not concern ourselves with maybe its because you dont need to get married in a church anymore but if so and the time comes for a woman to get married the old fashion church ceromony is the way to go, think about this one.